One feminist tests the empowering possibilities of burlesque
KP is a 24-year-old graduate student. In her debut post for HerLinked, KP explains why it was feminism that led her both to join and quit a Kentucky burlesque troupe.
Let me start by saying, I am a feminist. This is a label I am proud of, a label that represents equality and justice not only for women, but also for all human beings. Being a feminist, to me, means recognizing the intersectionality of oppression. You cannot combat gender inequality without also combating inequalities based on race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, disability status, etc. Feminism is about empowering the masses; it’s about empowering yourself. This was how I approached burlesque dancing.
My reasons for wanting to be a burlesque dancer were complex. I have always had a problem with society’s “Madonna / whore” complex. That is, forcing women to either be pure, virginal goodness or dirty, sexual evil. I wanted to use burlesque dancing as a rejection of this oppressive concept.
Although I have always been a political activist and pushed the boundaries idealistically and academically, I have been accused of being a “goody two shoes” when it comes to sexuality. Let me explain: it is not in my personality to sleep with many men. I have sex only within the bounds of a serious relationship. However, I’ve always been bothered by the fact that my “low number” leads people to believe I’m prudish or didn’t like sex. The other reaction I get from people is, “Good for you for not whoring around.”
To me, while there are a variety of intentions behind these responses, both are problematic. Why is it that in order to be a sexually liberated woman I have to sleep with many men? And why is it that, in some people’s eyes, sleeping with a very small amount of people somehow makes me better than women who sleep with many people? Both of these judgments are two dimensional and limiting.
When I met the women in the troupe..they told me it was absolutely about empowerment, about feeling great about your body and about owning your sexuality. And for a hot minute, that’s what it was about…
I decided to do burlesque because I wanted to throw up the middle finger to this whole line of thought. I wanted to be empowered, to own my sexuality, to prove that you can be a sexually empowered woman without sleeping with lots of men. I also wanted to prove that I don’t gather my worth from the idea that I’ve slept with fewer people than most. I wanted to reject Madonna / whore and I wanted to have fun doing it. Burlesque seemed the perfect venue for this. And when I met the women in the troupe, they confirmed all of my feelings. They told me it was absolutely about empowerment, about feeling great about your body and about owning your sexuality. And for a hot minute, that’s what it was about…
The deeper I got into burlesque the more I realized that it wasn’t quite as idealistic as I’d hoped. Continue reading »